I wrote this blog post quite a while ago, but for some reason I didn’t upload it. I don’t know whether it was because I felt embarrassed about how passionate I was or because I thought maybe I was overreacting. Recently I have been thinking about it again and I decided to post it because no matter what other people may think of you, it is so important in life to stand up for what you believe is right. So here is my story:
Today something strange happened. I was happily chatting with a group of friends about gaming when one of the guys said: “well, you don’t know anything about games really”. Quite surprised by this statement I laughed it off and replied: “I mean I wouldn’t call myself a gamer, but I do play games”. This was greeted by a high pitched impression of me saying: “Oh yeah Wii!”. It was at this point I began to feel a little offended.
Is he being sexist? I thought to myself. I had not really encountered anything like this in a while but found myself being angered by my friend implying that I wouldn’t play what he called “proper games” simply because I am female.
I have never called myself a feminist because in modern times I haven’t really witnessed people being sexist (apart from the odd old man). But this made me fell so small. It was like he was looking down on me and making assumptions because of my gender. I was so shocked that in this day and age people could still be so prejudicial. When I said he was being a bit sexist he didn’t see any problem with what he had said and continued to make more assumptions about me.
Now, I don’t at all see myself as a games expert. Far from it! In fact the majority of the time I am too busy to play games, but when I do I really enjoy it. This year I’ve played a range of games: Batman Arkham Knight, Until Dawn, Bloodbourne, Rocket League (which I’m not the best at), Minecraft, FIFA 15, GTA V (a bit behind on the trend there I know), Star Wars Battlefront, Injustice, Game of Thrones and more... I’ve probably played a wider range of games this year than the individual who was judging me.
I am sure that what this guy said to me is a minority opinion and not all men are so judgemental of female gamers... at least I hope so anyway. Either way I am not going to let one individual’s ignorance bother me. He probably felt threatened by the fact that he could maybe be beaten in a game by a girl. I genuinely don’t think he understood why what he had said was wrong. We are brought up with the mentality that girls should play with dolls and boys should play football, but this is wrong. On a positive note, from what I have seen in the media, I do believe this is changing. Children are now being taught that they can be whatever they want to be and they don’t have to adhere to stereotypes. Teaching new generations these values is an important step in being more accepting as a society. I hope that in the future less people will experience sexism or any other judgmental behaviour like this.
Please let me know in the comments if any of you have experienced a similar situation, as I would love to hear your views on the matter.